Co-Dependents Anonymous
A twelve-step fellowship for people recovering from codependency.
What the fellowship is
Co-Dependents Anonymous is a fellowship whose common purpose is developing healthy relationships. Its literature works through patterns of denial, low self-esteem, compliance, control and avoidance.
What members describe
Not a checklist and not a diagnosis — just what people in CoDA commonly say brought them in.
- Setting aside your own values, needs or safety to keep somebody else content
- A compulsion to fix, advise or rescue people from their own consequences
- Self-worth resting entirely on being needed or approved of
- Staying in a harmful relationship because being alone seems worse
- Difficulty naming what you feel, having learned that naming it causes trouble
Your first meeting
CoDA meetings are gentle and unusually specific about boundaries. What members describe is a slow move from managing other people to having a self that does not need managing.
Where 12Gradus fits
12Gradus is software for the sponsor, not a substitute for one and not part of any fellowship. Nothing here is affiliated with or endorsed by Co-Dependents Anonymous.
A sponsee's profile records that they are in Co-Dependents Anonymous and dates their clean time from their recovery start. Daily check-ins, a self-reported urge score, high-risk days noted beside the chart, a rough-moment button that reaches the sponsor immediately, secure chat and a text bridge all work the same in every programme.
The step work is the part that does not. The built-in library is written for Gamblers Anonymous. A sponsor in CoDA assigns their own materials instead — which works, and is what sponsors have always done, but it is not the same as having CoDA's own step work in the app.