Al-Anon / Alateen
A twelve-step fellowship for families and friends of alcoholics.
What the fellowship is
Al-Anon, and Alateen for younger members, is for the people around a drinker rather than the drinker. It treats alcoholism as something a whole family lives inside, and helps members get their own lives back whether or not the person they love ever stops.
What members describe
Not a checklist and not a diagnosis — just what people in Al-Anon commonly say brought them in.
- A mind constantly occupied by somebody else's drinking
- Covering, excusing or explaining away their behaviour to others
- Hobbies, health and friendships quietly given up to manage them
- Exhaustion and resentment from trying to control what cannot be controlled
- A home that feels tense and unpredictable in a way that has become normal
Your first meeting
The room will be full of people who already know the specific loneliness of loving somebody who is drinking. Al-Anon's central move is a hard one — turning attention back onto your own life — and it is much easier to do among people who have done it.
Where 12Gradus fits
12Gradus is software for the sponsor, not a substitute for one and not part of any fellowship. Nothing here is affiliated with or endorsed by Al-Anon / Alateen.
A sponsee's profile records that they are in Al-Anon / Alateen and dates their clean time from their recovery start. Daily check-ins, a self-reported urge score, high-risk days noted beside the chart, a rough-moment button that reaches the sponsor immediately, secure chat and a text bridge all work the same in every programme.
The step work is the part that does not. The built-in library is written for Gamblers Anonymous. A sponsor in Al-Anon assigns their own materials instead — which works, and is what sponsors have always done, but it is not the same as having Al-Anon's own step work in the app.